The ‘loner’ tag

Anaeli Rufus wrote Party of One, one of the books I’ll be adding to my list of essential aloner reading, when I get around to constructing the list.

She talks about the media use of the word ‘loner’ and how it’s trotted out as a lame cliche every time some nut job loses the plot and carries out some bizarre, random or truly disturbed act.

People who are alone are not all loners in the sense the media means (where ‘dangerous’ is the usual accompanying prefix.) The media’s loner is someone who feels rejected by others, hence the rage and desire to create mayhem in order to get some kind of recognition or acknowledgement of their existence or to exact revenge against an imagined enemy.

The aloner, in contrast, is neither rejected nor rejecting. The aloner simply chooses to be alone, whether for 5 minutes or 5 decades. There is a world of difference between the two. It’s all about why the choice to be alone is made.