Going to the movies on your own

Movie-ticketWhen you live alone, you have to make your own fun.

Some people find it difficult to do things on their own that they would normally think of as shared activities. Going to the movies alone seems to be a bit of a litmus test for this. I’m not sure why because it’s not like you talk to whoever you’re with when you go to a movie. You sit there in the dark listening to other people talk to each other.

Perhaps it’s the early association with dating – a typical first date is usually going to a movie. But whatever the reason, going to the movies alone is a great thing to learn to do and get comfortable with.

I usually go to an afternoon session rather than an evening session. Just one warning about that — don’t pick the “midweek pensioner special” session because you’ll be surrounded by incredibly noisy whispered commentary from all the hard of hearing.

I have a profound dislike of popcorn and its smell, so I avoid big box theatres and go to smaller boutiquey ones that serve good coffee, wine and food. They usually have better movies too. I arrive a bit early, treat myself to something nice to eat or drink, and get a good seat.

I get seated early and watch everyone else come in. This is a surprisingly effective technique for avoiding the self consciousness that comes with being on your own. No-one sees you coming in on your own, but you get to watch other people, which is endlessly interesting.

After the movie is over, leaving is a non-event. Since everyone gets up at more or less the same time, and the lobby is just a crush of people coming and going, it’s very easy to move through the crowd and not feel “obviously alone”.

That’s really all there is to it. You get to see great movies and watch what you want. It’s a great ‘starter’ solo activity if you’re not used to doing things on your own. And if you’ve never done it before, it will give you a real sense of accomplishment.