I’ve decided to pause blogging here. I don’t imagine this will materially affect anyone’s life apart from mine.
I started this as an experiment really, and it’s both succeeded and failed.
I wanted to write, and since the standard advice is to write about what you know, I chose to write about living alone and how to do it well. Sometimes I stayed on topic but more often than not I wombled off into peripheral ideas and completely unrelated topics. I don’t know where I’m trying to go with it any more and I’m loath to make you wander aimlessly in the wilderness with me while I figure it out.
My initial intention was to offer advice and insights into living alone. I’ve lived alone for decades, and more importantly I enjoy it and choose it. That makes it a very different experience for me than for those who have it thrust upon them.
But I discovered that I feel uncomfortable telling anyone “this is how to do it”. (Ironic, as I’ve had to train myself to stop giving unsolicited advice and problem-solving other people’s lives in real life). Particularly since if you don’t want to be alone, having someone tell you that the way to do it is to embrace it, is like telling an insomniac the way to feel less tired is to get a good night’s sleep.
In terms of success, I count the fact that I’ve blogged pretty much once a week (with a few lapses) for over 2 years. One hundred and forty two posts, counting this one. I wanted to write and I did.
I may be pausing just at the wrong time. I don’t pay much attention to blog traffic but today I did look and total views over the year have grown. More surprising to me was where they’ve come from:
I love that someone in Nepal and someone in St Vincent & Grenadines once read a post! This is the long tail of readers — I haven’t shown the high end, but it includes the expected US, UK, Australia, New Zealand, Canada and others.
Still, I want to take a break and rethink what to do with this blog. I may decide to embrace the rambling, head off in a new direction, or give it up completely. I’m not yet sure so in the meantime I’m going to stop posting.
But not before saying thank you for reading and for the “likes” you’ve given posts. Until you do this blogging business you have no real idea how significant a view or a like or a follow is. It’s impartial validation – since you don’t have to read or like or follow, the fact you do is incredibly encouraging.
So thank you for humouring me and for showing your support by reading.
I may be back, but whether I am or not, may you live well, alone or in company.